When it comes to queer sex, there’s loads of variation. Lesbian sex, sapphic sex or girl-on-girl sex can involve anything from fingering and aggressively rubbing to massive dildos and forcefully smashing each other’s vaginas together.
Adding toys, role-playing and watching porn to your sexual life can all spice up the action. Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Use a sex toy
If you and your partner are in a long-term relationship, it is not uncommon for romance to ebb and flow. It is not a sign of weakness or infidelity; it just means that you may have lost some of the fire that fueled your initial attraction and lust for one another. However, there are a few things you can do to get that spark back.
For starters, try introducing some toys into your sexual play. Lesbians can find a wide range of pleasure devices that are specifically designed for their erogenous zones, including dildos, vibrators, and clitoral suckers. There are even sex toys that can be controlled with your smartphone or a remote control, which is great for lesbian couples who want to explore their kinks together without having to touch each other.
In addition, make sure to use your fingers in different ways during oral sex. For example, if your partner likes to be fingered, try touching her nipples with your fingers, or try using your tongue to lick and caress the area between her toes. It has been discovered that this region of the female body is very sensitive, and can arouse just as easily as the clitoris does. This is a great place to start for those who are new to lesbian sex, or for those who simply want to add some extra spice and intensity to their session.
2. Try a new position
Lesbian sex can be pretty mind-blowing, but it’s easy to get bored if you always have the same routine. Trying out new positions can bring your sex life to a whole other level of orgasms, excitement, and intimacy.
Missionary is one of the best lesbian sex positions that you can try. This involves straddling your partner and using your hands to massage them in various ways, including fingering their clits, which are highly sensitive areas that can give an incredible orgasm when stimulated. You can also use your mouth to kiss them, which is an erotic way to stimulate their tongue.
You can also do more digital stimulation by using a sex toy like a vibrator or a vagina brush. These sex toys are super satisfying, and can lead to an awesome orgasm, especially if you add lube. Another thing you can try is the classic cowgirl position, which is a sexy lesbian position that involves lying down and straddling your partner.
And if you’re really feeling adventurous, you can try strap-ons, which are fake penises that you can use to penetrate your partner. These can be a great option for people who don’t feel comfortable with oral sex or who just want to have a more intense sex experience. Just remember to use barrier methods whenever appropriate, and talk to your partner about their sex wants and needs before you start using these sex toys.
3. Try a new lubricant
Using a lubricant can bring sexual pleasure to new heights. It can also help to increase the arousal and orgasm during foreplay. It is important to find one that you and your partner both enjoy. You may be surprised at how many different types of lubricants are out there. Try testing them out to see what you like best.
It is important to remember that sex is all about communication. If you and your partner are not communicating during sex, it is likely that the intimacy will suffer. Having fun, laughing, and talking about your fantasies together can all be ways to spice up lesbian sex.
Foreplay is a great way to bring lesbian sex alive and keep the arousal levels high. It is important to not over-do it with foreplay, however. Overdoing it can cause arousal to peak too early, leading to an uncomfortable orgasm that is too fast for comfort.
Keeping a close eye on your hands is also an important part of lesbian sex. Lesbians often have long nails that can irritate the delicate genital tissues, so it is important to trim and file them before playing. It is also a good idea to use lube and to wear gloves during play to protect the genitals. Vulva-on-vulva sex is still possible to transmit STIs such as bacterial vaginosis, oral herpes, and HPV, so barrier methods are a must.
4. Try a new fetish
Women often have different pleasure kinks than men, and it’s important to explore them. If you’re bored with your current lesbian sex, try something new to spice things up. There are lots of options to choose from, including anal play, hand sex, and penetrative finger play. If you’re nervous about trying these new techniques, start by foreplaying with your partner before sex. This can include things like rubbing each other’s hands and talking about sexual fantasies.
For example, many people find that touching each other’s tits (or anuses) is very pleasurable. Lesbians can also try different methods of scissoring – this involves using your fingers to penetrate each other’s vulva, which can be extremely orgasmic. You can also experiment with different positions that involve genital-to-genital contact, such as the missionary and 69.
These tips are sure to help you spice up your lesbian sex life, but they’re only going to work if you and your partner put in the effort. Be sure to communicate your needs, desires, and fears so you can work together to overcome any obstacles. And, of course, always practice safe sex. This means using barrier methods whenever possible – dental dams, split-open condoms for oral sex, latex or nitrile gloves for digital stimulation, and always use a condom when using shared sex toys.
