Masturbation is a healthy way to explore your own body and feelings of pleasure. It can even boost libido in some people.
It’s important to know your limits, though. If you masturbate so much that it interferes with your life and hurts relationships, speak to a therapist who specializes in sexual health.
1. You’re in a relationship
Masturbation is often associated with sexual pleasure, but people masturbate for a variety of reasons. It can also help you feel more relaxed, improve your sleep, and release tension. Some people even use masturbation as an alternative to sex or as a way of dealing with sexual distress.
However, it’s important to remember that masturbation can become problematic if you start to associate it with negative feelings or thoughts. For example, if you’re feeling guilty or ashamed about your masturbation, it may be time to talk to a counselor or therapist who can help you resolve these issues.
Research suggests that masturbation might also play a different role for those who are in a relationship compared to those who are single. For example, in one study, women who masturbated more frequently reported less satisfaction with their partnered sex. Similarly, men who masturbated more frequently in a relationship experienced worse erectile function than their single counterparts. This is likely due to the fact that couples might develop sexual expectations and desires that can’t be satisfied through masturbation alone.
2. You’re sick
For hundreds of years, masturbation was considered taboo and was thought to cause psychological problems. However, research has since disproven this claim. Masturbation is actually a safe, healthy activity that can offer many benefits.
Nevertheless, some cultures and religions still condemn masturbation. Additionally, depression can affect how a person feels about masturbation and may make it less fun for them.
A song that overtly references masturbation is “Longview” by English new wave punks the Vapors. The band’s bassist Mike Dirnt says the song was written during a period of intense boredom and masturbation, which is why it has such overt references to this particular habit.
The song “Why Bother?” by The Clash is also about boredom and masturbation. The lyrical content of the song refers to being so bored that masturbation becomes your only form of pleasure. The Clash was at the height of their popularity, and this hit made them famous in the UK, Japan, Australia and elsewhere. The song is a perfect example of the way that music can be used to express personal feelings.
3. You’re lonely
Many people who no longer enjoy masturbation do so because they feel lonely. This can be due to a number of factors, including a lack of socialization, feelings of depression, or a low libido. It’s important to talk to a therapist about this feeling, as it may be a sign of a serious problem.
Masturbation is often a taboo subject, with some cultures viewing it as sinful or harmful. Nevertheless, it’s a common activity that can help to boost self-esteem and explore sexuality. It can also be a way to relieve stress and alleviate symptoms of anxiety or depression.
It’s important to note that masturbation doesn’t cause depression, but it can lead to a lack of interest in sexual activities if a person feels guilty about it. People should seek a therapist who can work with them to overcome these feelings and make masturbation enjoyable again. To do this, they can use BetterHelp, which connects them with a licensed therapist who specializes in mental health and depression. They can also speak to their doctor, who will be able to recommend a therapist that’s right for them.
4. You’re in a relationship with someone else
Masturbating is a healthy and natural part of your sexuality. It’s a great way to discover your comfort zones and what makes you feel aroused. It can also help you explore your body’s other erogenous zones, such as your ears, neck, inner thighs, and nipples. However, if you’re masturbating so much that you are spending less time with your loved ones, it might be time to consider talking to a therapist or counselor.
Some people may feel guilty or shameful about masturbation because it conflicts with their religious, spiritual, or cultural beliefs. If you’re struggling with feelings of guilt or shame, you may benefit from speaking with a therapist that specializes in sexual health.
5. You’re stressed
There’s an old joke that “80% of people masturbate, but only 20% are willing to admit it.” And while it may seem like nobody does it (or they keep it very quiet), it’s actually a really normal part of everyone’s sexual experience. It’s a way to explore your body, feel pleasure and comfort, and relieve stress.
While there is no such thing as masturbation addiction, the sex education and sex therapy expert Gigi Engle warns that abstaining from masturbation can cause sexual frustration for some people. She says that it can also make you sleep less, which isn’t good for your health.
If masturbation is becoming a problem for you, it’s important to seek help from a healthcare professional, particularly a sex therapist. There are also treatments, including homeopathic, that can reduce the compulsion to masturbate and improve your sex life. Keeping busy with other activities and maintaining a healthy diet containing fresh fruits and dry fruits such as dates, almonds and anjeer can also help. These will increase your libido naturally.