Many men are guilty of falling asleep after sex. The main reason is due to the biochemistry behind orgasms. Men release a cocktail of brain chemicals, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, and nitric oxide. The release of prolactin, which is linked to sexual satisfaction, also helps mediate recovery time.
Whether you’re sprinting toward climax or taking your time to reach it, these factors could be to blame for your sleepiness post sex. Here’s how to avoid it.
1. Drink lots of water
A session between the sheets can be a lot like a run in the gym – it’s physically exhausting. That’s why it is important to drink plenty of water after sex to hydrate and combat the fatigue that can be caused by prolonged bedroom activity.
In addition, a healthy supply of blood is essential to maintaining an erection and can be difficult to achieve without adequate hydration. Dehydration can also cause the body’s blood vessels to tighten, restricting blood flow and making it harder to maintain an erection.
It is normal for energy levels to fluctuate, but if your energy level is so low that you’re unable to sleep or feel awake even if you tried, it may be worth talking to your health-care provider. They can help you figure out why your energy is low and make recommendations based on the symptoms you’re experiencing.
In general, a healthy diet, regular exercise, and enough rest can help you boost your energy. However, if you’re feeling tired all the time and aren’t getting enough sleep, it may be an indication that you have an underlying medical condition. If this is the case, talk to your doctor about your concerns. Lybrate does not provide any diagnosis or treatment and does not recommend or endorse any specific products, services, treatments, or physicians.
2. Eat a light meal
Sex is a very physical activity that takes away from your energy. Especially if you’re having a very intense or prolonged sex session, it can drain your body’s natural resources and make you feel spent afterwards. The sexual excitement, the sense of intimacy, and the emotional energy involved in sex can all contribute to the feeling of exhaustion that follows it.
Then there’s the fact that sex typically occurs at night after a long day of work and that our brains associate this activity with bedtime. This, combined with the release of hormones like oxytocin and prolactin, can signal our bodies that it’s time to get ready for sleep.
Lastly, some men find that drinking alcohol or eating certain foods makes them more tired after sex. For example, one glass of wine can boost the sleep-inducing chemical melatonin and inhibit orgasms, according to research.
To avoid this effect, try not to eat a large meal right before or after sex. This can lead to gas and bloating that can make it hard to achieve orgasms. Instead, eat something light to keep your digestive system happy, such as eggs (they’re rich in zinc and balance hormones) or fish. And steer clear of foods with lots of salt, which can cause bloating and water retention. This may even prevent premature ejaculation.
3. Take a warm bath
There’s a common caricature of heterosexual monogamous intercourse where the man collapses into pillows on a bed in a blissful state of pleasure and drifts off to sleep while his partner is wide awake, twiddling her thumbs. While this vignette may be rife with generalizations of gender norms, it raises an important question: Why does sex make us tired?
Several factors contribute to the feeling of exhaustion after sex. For starters, sex is typically done at night, and our brains associate the bedroom with sleep. Additionally, sex is often physically exhausting and requires a lot of energy.
Men are more likely to feel exhausted after sex because their orgasms tend to be explosive, which burns a lot of energy. According to Live Science, a cocktail of chemicals is released when a man ejaculates, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, and nitric oxide. One of the chemicals that is released is prolactin, which is linked to feelings of sexual satisfaction and also a hormone that promotes sleep.
The key is to understand what is happening with your body and mind so that you can take care of it. By following these simple tips, you can learn how to not feel so tired after ejaculation and unlock the full potential of your libido. If you keep your libido at a 7/10 instead of beating it back down to 0, you’ll always have a reserve of energy to draw from.
When men or women have an explosive orgasm, their energy is immediately released out of their body. This leads to a quick drop in libido and feeling tired after sex. The solution is to train yourself to slow down and linger in the orgasm. If you can learn to ride your orgasm out instead of letting it peak in the middle and then plummet back down, it’s not only more sustainable but will leave you with more libido to draw on later.
Taking the time to orgasm slowly can also help you sleep better. “Self-pleasuring quiets your mind and helps you fall asleep faster,” sexologist Rebecca Alvarez Story, who owns intimate care marketplace Bloomi, tells Men’s Health. Plus, oxytocin—released during orgasms—also promotes restful sleep. “If you have sex before bed and orgasm, it can also improve your REM cycle, helping you sleep longer,” she adds.
It’s important to communicate with your partner during sex about how much energy you have, and to respect theirs as well. This way, if one partner is sleepy after sex, it’s not misinterpreted as abandonment or lack of connection, and vice versa. Also, it’s a good idea to talk about what you’re eating or drinking. Alcohol can decrease libido, especially in high doses. And if you’re eating a lot of sugar, that can also lead to fatigue and sexlessness.